sex before marriage
Yes it's as bad as homosexuality.
Yes many of us started out passive regarding it.
Yes many of us dragged it into our belief and tried to justify it.
Yes it causes many problems with our walk with God cuz it's a snare.
I am completely qualified to bust myself out and put my former sin on front-street. I thought being baptized was all the servitude and obedience I was to offer to Messiah in return for all the promise (lol...lol). I still cussed foul as ever the first two years of my walk; I was immoral, full of perverse jokes and unfaithful in relationships. It wasn't until a brother in the Lord said the word "fornication" that I was even aware that there was such a thing. I thought the gripe about sex before marriage was some ancient custom that didn't matter anymore. Even my gramma who claimed she had no sin only harassed me about ‘floosie girlfrenz’ once in a while but didn't have a reason to back it up.
Once I heard that word (fornication), it resonated thru my spirit and couldn't stop hearing it; so of course I needed to look into what it meant. So after realizing it was sin, then I got kinda irate and scoffed, "as if what man can do that!!" I even was so offended that I went to a local popular mega church and raised my hand in the college session to contend it. I said, "Every man takes the car for a test drive before he buys it," and I was like "duh," and I thought everyone was gonna clap for me. But being called to the truth, the reaction wasn't as I expected. There were many mixed emotions coming from all angles: the leaders and the congregation; I could tell it was a heavy issue.
I found out fast that not only was it sin; it became bondage. It became the devil's favorite device to hold me down from going forward in Christ. We don't realize the cause and effect. We think just because we are able to do it, and we somewhat enjoy it, that it is lawful or allowed. But the fact of the matter is the Bible is clear it won't even inherit the kingdom. Those are straight hard words! Especially growing up in a society where it appears to be 'the way'. Well this is why "the true way" says to not conform to the ways of the world. I found out that sins’ consequences can manifest days, weeks, and months later from the actions. I guess wisdom begins to download foresight and praise Yah cuz I began to incorporate new strategies of how I was gonna go forward with discipline. I knew disciple was a derivative of discipline. I just didn't know it meant "me" (lol).
Porn. Yay! I wasn't even into it or addicted to it, "until" I was saved. It was like once I discovered I couldn't have the real thing, then the flesh opted for the fake and justified it sayin, "Oh well it ain’t hurtin nobody but myself." And although this was a better option than sinning against another's flesh, it's still sin against God. It still gets in God's way. It gets in between yours and His relationship. It's garbage. It's like looking right into the eyes of demons. Gross! Yet I still lingered. One time I tried to beat it by overdosing on it. I figured I will just make myself sick of it and that will fix it. Did it work? No. But it did get me in a 3-car pile up that cost me 1500 bucks outta pocket on the spot. I have many many other testimonies of those I mentored who had freeway car accidents and broken backs over adultery and fornication linked to the accidents. I think it's one of God's least favorite things after observing all this stuff first hand.
Is there mercy? You bet! You have already experienced it. The Bible says we are not to insult His grace. Am i totally delivered? I will just say it’s a day at a time. I fast regularly, to beat my flesh into submission. I learned quickly not to go around boasting about how delivered I am. Pride surely comes before a fall.
A very normal response is to get angry over this; to question God; to blame our environment. But eventually if the truth is in you, you will desire to mature and go forward. It's a very difficult issue, and our tendency is to also dodge accountability and grant our self passes and hide our sin. But from being in addictions and bondage for so long I can only say: you would really appreciate your life a lot more if you could do whatever it takes to change. The walk is not to be acted out hastily either. There are not many quick fixes. If you can't overcome, God has no problem sending you back to square one 5-10 yrs later. Our walk is the only thing worth real value, so it is really the only thing to put our best effort into no matter what it takes, time or otherwise.
We can't go looking to solve lust problems by getting married all fast either. Men can find their lust exactly the same and now it's jumped on the new wife. We must solve spiritual problems with spiritual solutions. Fast ... pray ... word ... serve. Keep the faith that it will work and watch it manifest for His glory and then you can boast in His story. Yahbless
17 March 2015
17 March 2015
Jason Maki is the husband of God'z Gurlz' editor/publisher, Lisa Maki. They have been married since November 2007. God has used Jason's testimony -- how he was delivered from a life of drugs, promiscuity, sexual immorality, perversion, alcoholism, gang life, etc, to encourage and inspire other people. He is the founder of God'z Gang, an evangelistic ministry whose main thrust is to reach those who are not reached by traditional churches. He aims to be a bridge between Jews and Christians, and between the Messianic and Non-Messianic Christians.