THE KIND OF GUY WHO DESERVES YOU
How do you see yourself? How do you feel about yourself? I am asking because the answers to these questions will determine the kind of guy who you will end up with.
Let me tell you what I thought about myself when I was a teenager and where this perception about myself led me to. Let this help you in discovering yourself and in avoiding the same mistakes I did.
How did I see myself back then? Hmmm ... this is like traveling back in time and watching myself from years back. I see a girl who is not sure of herself ... a girl who knows she is not ugly but is not sure if she is really pretty or not ... a girl who needs people’s approval of her ... a girl who will believe she is pretty only if somebody tells her she is. This girl never heard her Dad tell her that she is pretty. She doesn’t even remember being held by her Dad close to him. She doesn’t have any memory of her and her Dad walking hand in hand or even sitting on her Dad’s lap as a kid.
I grew up so hungry for my Dad’s love and attention. And since I didn’t get it from him, I sought it elsewhere. The first guy who showed me some attention was the guy who molested me. The next few guys who gave me attention also wanted me just for my body. Then I met this guy who I thought was going to protect me from these other guys. He was the one who I lost my virginity to and the man who became the father of my sons.
I didn’t see myself as a special girl at that time. I knew I was not ugly. I knew I was better than other girls. In fact, I was pretty cool back then. Guys thought I was hot. Yet, I didn’t see myself as special. I didn’t even know how that felt. I was so hungry for love and attention that I was happy eating crumbs that fell off the table. I believed every guy who told me they liked me because I wanted to hear it so bad. Had I considered myself as a special girl at that time, I would have rejected every guy who came my way unless he was my prince charming. I should have discerned a prince charming from someone who was a villain. But no! I was so blinded by my own hunger for attention.
A girl who feels special values herself. And a girl who values herself will not just settle for any guy out there. In fact, she is going to preserve herself for her special man. She knows she belongs only to that special person, because she is special.
Do you feel special? If you do, then you should be guarding your purity and preserving it for your future husband. If you don’t, then let me tell you something about you.
God made all the delicate, inner parts of your body and knit you together in your mother’s womb. You were made so wonderfully complex! God’s workmanship of you is marvelous. God watched you as you were being formed in utter seclusion. He saw you before you were born. Every day of your life was recorded in God’s book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed.
How precious are God’s thoughts about you. They cannot be numbered! (Ps. 139:13-17)
The mere fact that you are reading this article shows how special you are in God’s eyes. He wants you to know that. He wants only the best for you. And He has the best man for you out there. However, you have to wait for him and preserve yourself for him. Otherwise, you may lose that chance.
It all starts with how you see yourself. Had I known what I am telling you now, it would have changed my whole life. I wouldn’t have ended up with a man who was not the one for me. God still restored me. After a divorce and years later, I was finally married to my prince charming. Yet, it would have been a lot better had I waited for him. I would have been spared of the consequences that I am still reaping until now.
Look at yourself in the mirror and say: I am special because God says so. I am precious in His sight. No man except my future husband, my prince charming will have any right to this body. It belongs to God for now and I will preserve it for my future man.
~Lisa Maki~
Let me tell you what I thought about myself when I was a teenager and where this perception about myself led me to. Let this help you in discovering yourself and in avoiding the same mistakes I did.
How did I see myself back then? Hmmm ... this is like traveling back in time and watching myself from years back. I see a girl who is not sure of herself ... a girl who knows she is not ugly but is not sure if she is really pretty or not ... a girl who needs people’s approval of her ... a girl who will believe she is pretty only if somebody tells her she is. This girl never heard her Dad tell her that she is pretty. She doesn’t even remember being held by her Dad close to him. She doesn’t have any memory of her and her Dad walking hand in hand or even sitting on her Dad’s lap as a kid.
I grew up so hungry for my Dad’s love and attention. And since I didn’t get it from him, I sought it elsewhere. The first guy who showed me some attention was the guy who molested me. The next few guys who gave me attention also wanted me just for my body. Then I met this guy who I thought was going to protect me from these other guys. He was the one who I lost my virginity to and the man who became the father of my sons.
I didn’t see myself as a special girl at that time. I knew I was not ugly. I knew I was better than other girls. In fact, I was pretty cool back then. Guys thought I was hot. Yet, I didn’t see myself as special. I didn’t even know how that felt. I was so hungry for love and attention that I was happy eating crumbs that fell off the table. I believed every guy who told me they liked me because I wanted to hear it so bad. Had I considered myself as a special girl at that time, I would have rejected every guy who came my way unless he was my prince charming. I should have discerned a prince charming from someone who was a villain. But no! I was so blinded by my own hunger for attention.
A girl who feels special values herself. And a girl who values herself will not just settle for any guy out there. In fact, she is going to preserve herself for her special man. She knows she belongs only to that special person, because she is special.
Do you feel special? If you do, then you should be guarding your purity and preserving it for your future husband. If you don’t, then let me tell you something about you.
God made all the delicate, inner parts of your body and knit you together in your mother’s womb. You were made so wonderfully complex! God’s workmanship of you is marvelous. God watched you as you were being formed in utter seclusion. He saw you before you were born. Every day of your life was recorded in God’s book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed.
How precious are God’s thoughts about you. They cannot be numbered! (Ps. 139:13-17)
The mere fact that you are reading this article shows how special you are in God’s eyes. He wants you to know that. He wants only the best for you. And He has the best man for you out there. However, you have to wait for him and preserve yourself for him. Otherwise, you may lose that chance.
It all starts with how you see yourself. Had I known what I am telling you now, it would have changed my whole life. I wouldn’t have ended up with a man who was not the one for me. God still restored me. After a divorce and years later, I was finally married to my prince charming. Yet, it would have been a lot better had I waited for him. I would have been spared of the consequences that I am still reaping until now.
Look at yourself in the mirror and say: I am special because God says so. I am precious in His sight. No man except my future husband, my prince charming will have any right to this body. It belongs to God for now and I will preserve it for my future man.
~Lisa Maki~
